How are we communicating?

Are we careful in the way we communicate?

I noticed something with a close friend of mine and her interaction with her partner over the weekend...

The tone and the way things were communicated felt hostile.

Sometimes a question and the way it can be delivered to someone may be displayed as an attack.

The man in essence became defensive and angry and acted defensively.

Sometimes the way we communicate can be so detrimental to peace between you and your partner.

If we have a question, instead of posing it in way where the question can be answered, the questions sometimes are accusations.

Have you ever experienced this?

“I just wanted to say that I didn’t do this and that, did you?!! ..it makes no sense that it happened in this way…”

This simple statement can have such a negative punch!

If the question was stated, “ sweetie, I feel like every time I do x, y, and z it feels like this keeps happening, What are your thoughts, is it something I did, did we purchase something that needs to be returned, what do you think?”

This is a statement that can save a couple from arguing, pressing buttons, feeling triggered or delivering angry statements.

Many times the way we express ourselves are the reasons why we are stuck in relationships with partners, families, friends, and work colleagues.

With my own partner, I have slip ups, im not perfect but I am always learning and growing and working on myself. My life is my full time investment.. I will rephrase statements into questions, if I am unsure of something, I ask my partner their opinions and thoughts, and I listen before I talk. I really stop what im doing and start to actively listen. If I am wrong I admit it and don’t view it as a sign of weakness but a sign of maturity and growth. We pick our battles..

How are we communicating?

Let me know your thoughts…